How often do we see people brushing their own or someone else’s bigotry, sexism and violence as a case of ‘boys being boys’?
‘Boys will be boys’ is an unfailing cop-out that irresponsible parents, non-committal teachers / educational institutes, unconcerned law enforcers and incompetent politicians fall back on – whenever they don’t have a convincing answer to uncomfortable questions.
It’s the plastic toy gun which the mother of a young boy hands him when he chases and pulls a young girl’s hair at school.
It’s the wooden sword with which the patriarch of a party governing the largest Indian state evades responsibility around brutal rapes under his watch.
It’s the backdoor that a member on our Facebook page uses to get out of trouble when he is called out for his problematic comment about “looking to find a moron for his sister”.
There are endless dark metaphors that can be written to highlight this socially problematic mentality. But, why do that when you can instead say it through a funky music video with a sick beat?
The folks at Gender-Ventions – an initiative by The Pocket Company – have created a sarcastic video titled (you guessed it) ‘Boys Will Be Boys’ – that does some important commentary on the various things wrong with the ‘Boys will be Boys’ mentality – using song and dramatisation.
The video talks about how overlooking early warning signs in males – under the excuse of that’s-how-they-are – can lead to strengthening gender roles, disruption of civic property and most importantly, normalisation of harassment and violence against women.
Last but not the least, expecting boys to be ‘boys’ also builds a notion of hyper masculinity that marginalises men betraying emotions as ‘showing weakness’.
Check out the awesome video below:
The people from Gender-Ventions had this to say about the video:
“[..] Supposedly “innocent” remarks like “boys will be boys”, “don’t throw like a girl”, “boy’s don’t cry” “man up!” etc cover up a multitude of sins including bullying, assault and irresponsible behaviour, among other things.
Our music video [..] is a satirical look at this phenomenon that has become part of our everyday language, to an extent where we don’t even see it. “
Story by Bruce Vain.